James Allen wrote the book “As A Man Thinketh” back in 1913 and the message behind the book is that we are what we think.
That it is our thoughts that create our experience and that you need only need to look at your life to be able to tell yourself how your thoughts are shaping your world.
They themselves are makers of themselves by virtue of the thoughts which they choose and encourage; that mind is the master weaver, both of the inner garment of character and the outer garment of circumstance, and that, as they may have hitherto woven in ignorance and pain they may now weave in enlightenment and happiness.
Here’s is the line that you need to pay particular attention to
“as they may have hiterto woven in ignorance and pain they may now weave in enlightenment and happiness”
Until now you may have woven in pain through the words that you use and the good news is you can change that by deciding to think different thoughts, speak different words and “weave in enlightenment and happiness” to your life.
When I realised that my life was the way it was because of the thoughts I had and the words I used it was a big moment of self discovery for me.
At first I struggled to believe that I could build self confidence and change my life by simply changing my thoughts and words but it really did happen.
Unfortunately, while it is simple as a process it isn’t always that easy to practice.
When negative thoughts were continually playing over and over in my head learning how to stop them (because at the time that is what I thought I had to do) seemed like an uphill battle.
I think the important thing to remember is this journey is not about fixing/getting rid of what we do but instead learning how to manage, work through, and take action in spite of it.
We can change small aspects of who we are step by step until those small steps make a major difference.
I can even say that I have silenced many parts of my negative thoughts but it took several years to do that and lots of learning about myself through books and seminars.
How have I managed my negative thoughts? One negative thought at a time.
I took the negative thought that was having the biggest impact on my life, the one that was causing the most damage to me because it limited how much I would and wouldn’t do in life.
I wish I could tell you exactly which negative thought it was but I had so many and I worked through so much that I truthfully can’t.
I do know that believing I was ugly was a big one for me. At 16 when I met someone who wanted to date me I just wasn’t sure what it was he wanted from me because he couldn’t possibly think I was attractive.
At age 25 when I started working on my self confidence I decided it was time to work on the way I felt about myself and it took at least five years before I could look in the mirror and believe in my heart that I am a beautiful woman.
Negative thoughts destroy and waste life. From a young age of 13-14 up to the age of 25 I spent my time believing I was ugly and that stopped me going out and it stopped me engaging in relationships. It just stopped me full stop!
Which negative thought are having the biggest impact on your life right now? If you care to share leave a comment below. If you aren’t sure take a look at what isn’t working in your life and see what thoughts you have about that particular area and you will gain some great insights.