As a shy 20 something year old woman I made the decision to transform my life and have spent much of it working on my self confidence until a conversation with my spiritual coach made me realise that self esteem was more than just confidence but included worth too.

Self confidence is my ability to make decisions, to give life to my intentions and dreams but without believing I am worthy to achieve those dreams and goals I set myself I make my journey more work than it really needs to be.

Self worth is the power that moves my dreams forward. It breathes power into the dream that I have given life to so that I may manifest what it is I desire. Without self worth my goals and dreams are like a car with no engine.

Self confidence and self worth together form my self esteem. To be whole therefore I have to have confidence in my decision to start a goal, to believe I am worthy of receiving what I desire and when I do the resulting boost in believing in my ability to co-create my life forms my self esteem.

So where does universal power come into this? At what point do I involve my creator who will help me do less “doing” to achieve what I desire but enjoy more “being”?  For me God (as I like to call Him) appears in my self worth. At that moment as I open myself up to believe that I am worthy to receive I also invite into my dreams the unseen universal forces that will support me in bringing to me whatever I desire.

How much I do is what I still struggle with. I am a “doing” person who believes after setting my goal, connecting to God and asking help from higher energies I should then do some work towards making it happen. I am learning that all that “doing” really isn’t always necessary and I can spend a lot more time being trusting of the universe to deliver what I want because it really doesn’t need my help.

There is a balance between how much you do because you believe it is necessary and how much time you spend “being” – which means letting go of the need to make things happen – and just allow it to come to you. Finding that balance is my current journey and one my coach calls “the third way” where I let go of the need to control everything and rather than chase it, allow it to come to me.