If you are going to build self confidence the first thing you need to focus on is becoming more self aware. You need to figure out what you do and why you do it.
Life is full of challenges and right now you may seem a challenge or problem that is in your life as inconvenient or bad or just something to fear and be depressed about. What if you looked at your problems and challenges as a way to make you stronger within yourself.
A way to make you more aware of who you are and what you are capable of coping with.
These challenges that life throws at us are nothing more than opportunities to develop ourselves mentally and spiritually, maybe even physically.
The only way you can do this is to become aware of how you react in different situations. Take a good look at your strengths and weaknesses.
What makes you do and say certain things and under what kind of condition?
Doing this will help you connect to what you need to do to become stronger and more powerful within yourself.
Becoming self aware is a never ending process. No matter how confident you become in life chances are you will always be capable of being more than you are at any given time so get used to it and enjoy it. There is always more to learn about yourself no matter how old you are.
Best place to start getting to know yourself is to ask yourself questions.
Why did I react in that way?
What made me say that to that person?
Why is it two people can say the same thing and I react badly to one and not the other?
Keep questioning everything you do. As time goes on and as you learn more about yourself you won’t have to do this as much as you will at the beginning but it will be so worth it.
Examine your values, what is important to you and why.
Look at your beliefs. Not only the ones that empower you but the ones that limit you as well.
Why do you have to do things in a certain way?
What makes you believe there is only one way to do that?
Question everything. Seek answers always. As I said this is ongoing. No matter how self aware you become there is always more to find out.
Also check out websites, podcasts, personal growth books, audios, seminars. Use those types of tools as well because they will help speed up the process.
Why is it so important to do this when it comes to building self-confidence?
Well if you want to transform your life, live your desires, make that move to a new country or just enjoy the life you have you need to have self-belief in yourself. You need to know what you will do and why you do it so that you don’t sabotage your happiness and you work towards your goals.
It will also help you in your attempts to listen to and follow your inner voice. The stronger your self-awareness is the more likely it will be for you to follow your own inner guidance when you hear it and be able to recognize it.
The most challenging, exciting and significant relationship is the one you have with yourself so take the time to discover more about you.
The audio below is from the inspirational guidance podcast on building self-confidence