Confidence building and success are inherently linked. You can’t experience success without confidence (IMHO).
You will go through a number of challenges in life, that can’t be avoided. We all go through them.
What will help you get through them and how you deal with them will determine the type of life you will live. Your level of confidence will also be a motivating factor to whether you sink or swim.
Instead of locking yourself up in your cage of fears and crying over past heartaches, embarrassment and failures, treat them as your teachers and they will become your tools in both confidence building and success.
In this handbook we will start by helping you get the basics of building self confidence before moving on to recommending tools that can help you.
How to build self confidence
Where do we start?
Take things one at a time. Don’t expect to go from a shy person to a party animal in a matter of weeks. Confidence building is a one day at a time process and there are no rules about how long it should take. It takes as long as it takes, be patient with yourself.
Set meaningful and achievable goals. Confidence building doesn’t suddenly turn you into an exact replica of the celebrity man or woman that you long to be! The real aim is to build an improved and better YOU.
Stop thinking and feeling as if you’re a failure, because you’re not. How can others accept you if YOU can’t accept YOU?
When you’re willing to accept change and go through the process of confidence building, it doesn’t mean that everyone else is. The world is a place where people of different values and attitude hang out. Sometimes, even if you think you and your best friend always like to do the same thing together at the same time, this may change as you begin to build your confidence.
Just because you are confidence building it doesn’t mean that your friends will want to so be ready to be out there on your own!
When you see hunks and models on TV, think more on confidence building rather than self pity. Self-acceptance is a big part of self confidence and it is not just about having nice slender legs, or great abs. Concentrate on inner beauty.
Little things mean BIG to other people. Sometimes, we don’t realize that the little things that we do like a pat on the back, saying “hi” or “hello”, greeting someone “good day” or telling Mr. Smith something like “hey, I love your tie!” are simple things that mean so much to other people.
When we’re being appreciative about beautiful things around us and other people, we also become beautiful to them, which helps to raise our confidence.
When people feel so down and low about themselves, help them move up. Don’t go down with them. They’ll pull you down further and both of you will end up feeling inferior.
The world is a large room for lessons, not mistakes. Don’t feel stupid and doomed forever just because you failed on a science quiz. There’s always a next time. Building self confidence is all about learning and moving on, not regrets and focusing on the past.
Confidence building leads on to inner stability, self development and SUCCESS. All of these things happen when you focus on building self-confidence, self appreciation and confidence building.
We should always remember that there is no such thing as ‘over night success’ but as you are reading this confidence building handbook you are obviously ready to make a change.
A great quote says that, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”
We are all here to learn our lessons. Our parents, school teachers, friends, colleagues, officemates, neighbors… they are our teachers. When we open our doors to confidence building and success, we increase our chances of making it happen and living a more fulfilled life.