Since my last “relationship” last year I decided that celebacy is the only way forward. Just stay without it (“it” being sex and men) because life is just easier (loads of limiting beliefs in that sentence I know but bear with me it gets worse 🙂 )

Then I told my brothers girlfriend that I want a man in my life and she was completely disgusted with me. How could I want a man? She just couldn’t understand it. It seems I had shattered some fantasy for her in which I was super efficient wonder woman and needed no one.

Why is it that people think that about women who like to be independent? I thought it was actually only the men I dated that thought that way. Eventually the conversation about “not being good enough” would come up because some how me wanting to be a sistah that does it for herself was too much for them.

Somehow being an independent woman equals needing no one and yet it actually means the complete opposite – for me anyway – because being independent means more than ever I really value someone being by my side to share things with and to talk things through.

This sistah loves doing it for herself when it comes to business but I really don’t want to end up a sistah doing it for herself in any other way….. if you know what I mean 😉